Appearance and Reality

To appear wise, one must talk;To be wise, one must listen. To appear to do good, one must be busy;To do good, one must know when to stand aside. To appear to lead, one must put oneself first;To lead, one must put oneself last. To appear caring, one must give advice;To be caring, one must give space. To appear to love, one must know how to give;To love, one must know also how to receive. To appear happy, one must smile;To be happy, one must be free with tears.